By Melody C. Kerr, MS, Founder
Certified Financial Coach
When we have a goal to reach, oftentimes, we talk about how we’re going to reach it on our own. But here’s the thing…No matter how much we think we do, we don’t get where we are without the help, motivation, encouragement, and support from others.
Even if you put in the hard work to achieve your goal, somebody, somewhere was there to help you along the way.
And that’s a big reason I believe we need someone to hold us accountable when we speak things into existence. We need someone who’s going to remind us: “Hey, didn’t you say you were going to finish your project in the garage by next week?” “How’d that conversation with your boss go? Will you be considered for the promotion? “How’s the home shopping going?”
We all need an accountability partner.
Never Too Old for the Buddy System Now, it might sound silly at first, but an accountability partner is a necessity if you have goals you want to achieve, by the time you want to achieve them.We’re not meant to do this thing called life alone. So, no matter who you are, what you do for a living, where you come from, or how old you are… you need others.
Have you ever tried to start a workout regimen where you started out doing well, but then, after a couple days or weeks, you get bored and stop going to the gym?
See, it’s easier to stop doing something when there’s nobody there to push you… when there’s nobody there to remind you why you’re doing what you’re doing.
The same thing goes for painting that kitchen you’ve talked about revamping. And the same goes for attending church every week or reading for 30 minutes each day.
Now, some of these might not be the typical “goals” you had in mind, but my point is: If you want to have the best chance at succeeding at what you set out to do, ask someone you trust to never let you forget.
We used to use “the buddy system” back when we were kids, for someone to keep tabs on us… For someone to know exactly where we were at all times… For someone to be there with us, every step of the way.
And we can still do that now, even as adults.
Share Your Goals You’re never too young or too old to ask for help. And by using the buddy system and asking someone you trust to hold you accountable, you’re basically asking them to help you help yourself.And there’s nothing wrong with that. Nobody’s doing the work for you. Nobody’s thinking for you. And nobody’s speaking for you.
You just have someone cheering for you… believing in you… reminding you… and pushing you, so you can achieve what you set out to do.
So, whether it’s to build up your rainy-day savings account, start your debt snowball, or ask for a raise at your job… be proud to talk about and share your goals, and ask someone you trust to hold you accountable.
I’m always so hesitant to talk about my life. It’s not necessarily intentional, but I don’t want to take the spotlight or seem wrapped up in… me. So, along with my hesitation, I forget that there are people who truly care about me… about my wellbeing… about my desires… my dreams. But how can they help me, how can they root for me, how can they guide me, how can they remind me if I don’t share with them?
Life is a journey. And we’re just not meant to do it alone. Our lives are about helping each other. So, don’t be afraid to offer your help to others. And don’t be afraid to ask for help, either. And remember: We want to be financially free, so we can live life like no other. We just need someone to help us get there, one step at a time, and one cent at a time.
With gratitude,
Melody C. Kerr
Certified Financial Coach
P.S. Need help setting up your goals? Schedule a consultation with me right here, and we’ll work on it together.
